Today’s post is short and sweet. Just a few reflective thoughts. I’m approaching one year of marriage already! Wow! Time flies when you’re having fun! I can not empathize enough how remaining a team is paramount to a healthy relationship. People often forget the joy in team work. I find it fun to work together. My husband and I use each other as a resource or a second opinion. It’s nice to be husband and wife but also each other’s go to person for advice and reasonings.
I wanted to share an important piece about disagreements as well. My Mom and Dad have been married for almost 35 years. They still have fun and celebrate their accomplishments together. Whether they are big or small, it does not matter. They have many attributes to their marriage that I admire. One very important quote my mother tells me is:
“The WE is more important than the ME.”
I know I can be stubborn and it’s important to realize that there is another point of view and another set of eyes on the situation. It’s okay to let down the walls and be vulnerable because your marriage should be a place of trust, understanding and love. It’s okay to be wrong and have your spouse explain why. That’s a hard pill for me to swallow but it’s true. I’ve come to realize that I have a lot to learn from my spouse and that is really neat. His brain is wired completely different than mine and rather then being frustrated I have chosen to listen better and I’ve grown in my marriage and in my life. When we disagree it’s usually because one person is being a little more selfish. By recognizing this it has diffused many situations that could have turned into an arguments. We can all be a little attached to our points of views but we learn and grow by accepting that we might not always be right.
This last year has been an amazing and wild ride. We made two moves, survived a deployment, we both started new jobs, bought a house and are settling into our new and busy lives.
The interesting part of all of this is that among all the changes, we focused on our goals, worked as a team and accomplished everything with little conflict. I believe it was because we realized that focusing on the big picture rather than the petty insignificant stresses that arise, we were able to carry on successfully high fivin’ and fist bumping each other along the way. There also may have been a bottle of champagne popped to celebrate each of our “wins”.
Always celebrate your wins together!